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Introducing you to BDSM

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What is BDSM?

Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism, the 6 words that define the BDSM wave. For those who want to experience “darker” sexual fantasies, BDSM involves a variety of erotic practices.

You might often hear the terms “submissive” and “dominant” - that is because BDSM involves an intense (consensual) roleplay between 2 partners who have complementary roles in the intercourse. There is a power play in the sexual life, where the dominant can give chores to the submissive, can restrain them or even punish them (in a way that is pleasant for both).

If you’re curious about the entire phenomenon and you’d like to add some kink to your “vanilla sex”, you need to make sure that your partner is also interested in this type of erotic play. There are plenty of myths about the BDSM play, most of them involving a certain amount of pain being inflicted. However, as long as you know your limits and your partner's boundaries, as well, you can get the most out of the “kinky” play.

What are the best toys for beginners?

Same as for all the other new things you’re trying for the first time, you might be in for a treat or you might find out BDSM isn’t exactly your cup of tea.

  1. Restraints: If you want to start with something mild, you can get some restraints or handcuffs and test them with your partner. Let yourself tied up or turn your significant other into your sex slave and allow one of you to get the full control upon the other’s body. You can try “under the bed” restraints to tie up your partner, cuffing their arms and legs, as well, so you can have full access to all their sensitive body parts.

2. Blindfolds: Going blindfolded adds excitement, building the anticipation, since one of the 2 doesn’t know what the other is going to do next.

You won’t be able to tell where your partner is going to touch you or kiss you, so use your imagination and surprise the other.

Some people might enjoy using ice cubes on the skin of their SO’s body (around the nipples, around the belly button, on the thighs etc.), so feel free to explore and play with the senses.

3. Ticklers, Floggers and Spankers: Sensation play makes sure that every stimulation is felt on a higher scale, using toys specially designed to either enhance the sensitivity or manipulate this sensitivity. Once feeling the pain, your brain produces endorphins as a natural painkiller - the hormone of happiness. By using a flogger or spanker, you can create a physical euphoria, making your skin sensitive to the touch.

After increasing the sensitivity of certain body areas, you can also use a feather tickler to arouse the senses of your partner. Make sure you pay attention to the boundaries of your other half, as we all have different physical limits.

Lucidtoys offers a variety of Spankers, Floggers and elegant Ticklers that will spice up your couple play and be your entry point into the world of BDSM.

Taking the BDSM play to the Next Level

After deciding whether you’re a submissive, a dominator or a switcher (a person who likes switching in between the two roles), test your boundaries with crops, nipple or clitoral clamps, toys meant to make your areas even more sensitive and to inflict the pleasurable pain you need.

Pay attention to your partner’s needs and make sure you’re deciding upon safe words that, once used, will stop both individuals from causing harm one to the other.

BDSM can help you learn to trust your partner, opening your mind and showing you multiple possibilities of mutual pleasure, as long as you are comfortable with letting your kinky side out.